‘’Do you ever think that some people’s lives are just set out for them to be perfect? Then that some lives just get harder and harder as each year passes? That some people have a good year now and then but for the most part they’re struggling. Am I the kind of person who just struggles? Who doesn’t have people who understand? Or who will never find true contentedness? Simply without struggle. The kind of person who things do not ever go smoothly for – but like every day is a battle, every day is just fucking hard. It’s truly hard to keep positive in a whole whirlwind full of extreme negatives. Pure negatives.’’
It is how we look at things that alters how ‘perfect’ our lives are in comparison to others.
Is it how we look at the things that happen to us, or the things around us, that make them negative – when in fact from an objective perspective almost everything is just an event, a moment, a happening, a thing to pass?
It is how we look at our lives that changes the course of each day. It is how we look at the things that cause us to be unhappy that only elongates the unhappiness we experience within. It is how we show our appreciation to the world that helps us discover more things to appreciate in the world around us.
Perspective is something we all have, our own invisible subconscious pair of glasses that we put on every day and view the world with.
When you suffer with mental illness, you glasses may change daily or maybe even hourly and your perspective on yourself and the world could change in a second. Going from balanced and happy, to hateful and paranoid (for example).
Perspective is something we shape, we form and we chisel into something new – only once we learnt to understand it. Spin your negative phases, your bad days and your dark thoughts – into gold.
Sometimes it helps simply to write down your darkest thoughts, looking at them on paper and realising their actual truth, as opposed to your irrational emotions truth – understanding that there will always be good and bad in the world, there will always be good and bad in your life, but which do you choose to give your energy to?
It also helps by writing down the things that have made you happy in the past 48 hours; do not say that there has been nothing – because we both know that’s not true.
There has been something; whether it’s the colour of the sky, the feeling of the rain, the sound of music whilst walking home, the shape of the flowers, the words you write on paper. There is something.
Imagine each mood, each mental, inner experience as a subconscious pair of glasses.
Just as you can take these glasses off – your perspective, your mood can eventually change too. Do not keep it on. Remember the days you’ve seen things as great, know that they can feel great again – for any reason, big or small, physical or not.