We’ve all heard it, asked it and announced it:
‘What do you want to be when you grow up?’
When I was 7 I wanted to be Britney Spears. When I was 10 I wanted to be in a rock band. When I was 13 I wanted to be a journalist. When I was 15 I wanted to be a fashion designer. When I was 19 I wanted to be director. Now I am 21…
What do I want to be when I grow up?
I still want to go into filmmaking. I still want to be a director. However, for all I know, I could end up working at Mind, Tesco, become a professional Blogger, an academic writer, a full-time Mother, a journalist; it doesn’t really matter. All that matters to me is that I am happy. (And that the source of happiness is legal, of course) I could work towards my goal and realise it isn’t what is good for me anymore.
Some of you could be reading this and thinking:
‘Life isn’t that simple’
And you are welcome to think that, but people have changed their lives overnight. We are all capable of doing that, if we put our mind to it.
But, when it comes to your wellbeing, when it comes to your genuine health and happiness, there should never be compromise. Compromises can and will be made in life but one thing you should never have to compromise is your genuine happiness; it is key for survival.
People today are all too willing to give up their happiness because it is ‘convenient’; people are all too scared to take a leap of faith, such as quit a job to make themselves happier.
As Joey says in Friends:
“YOU NEED THE FEAR!”
Leaving a job, for example, can open complications but it can also give you the motivation to get yourself in a happier situation. We all need to be a little more selfish. Happiness is everything.
I do not believe in pushing people under the bus for your own success, as that never ends up well for the person doing the pushing, but I do believe in thinking to yourself:
‘This situation, honestly and truly, makes me unhappy so what I can do to make it better?’
There are some situations that we can be placed in that we cannot just escape that cause us to become very unhappy; for example, someone you know or perhaps you yourself could become terminally ill. This isn’t something you can ‘quit’ or ‘move out’ of but these situations are all about remaining positive, understanding and accepting that life can offer bad situations sometimes.
But if you are in a situation and if it brings you down terribly it is as simple as walking away from it.
We do not need to make excuses as to why we cannot live happy and healthy lives.
We do not need to remain in all negative situations.
We deserve happiness.
All the best on your journey to happiness and if you are already there, never take it for granted.