We are all aware of what present-day awareness is, we all hear about mindfulness and meditation and all that other babble and jargon. But. this weekend me and my friends went to a unique meditation class, it was not what we were expected, although we had mixed feelings about it afterwards we all took the same thing from it – we are rarely ever just in the present.
Our minds are often swishing and swirling and spinning round and round with information, thoughts, feelings and worries of what has been or what is to be – very rarely what is right now.
We were sat on chairs, palms facing up, hands apart, resting on our knees. We were working to develop a bond with ourselves, our spirit, learning we are in control, we are our own master. I had never known of this kind of meditation before, it was a new experience and it was nice to be in the present moment. However, that said, it was difficult – I was itching to think, to fidget to look at my friends and chat to them. I don’t think this is a bad thing, this was my first meditation class, I kept pulling myself back into the moment thinking to myself:
‘No, focus only on what you’re doing right now’
I’ve never had this kind of bond with myself to actually stop myself from thinking, this class gave me the encouragement to do it.
It is all well and good to do this in a meditative state but how can I continue to do this in everyday life? Once we are set off into the busy world, with our busy minds – present-day awareness can fall down the drain.
We spend a lot of time not living, because our heads are somewhere else. They may be fretting about something that has already happened, they may be worrying about something that could happen, they may be thinking about the mass list of things needing to happen. Our heads are often busy with negative things that are not happening right now. Therefore we fail to see the good in now. We cause ourselves to not appreciate moments that are here. We very rarely live in the present.
We all want control of our lives. We know that life can have nasty surprises. But it can also have magical ones. In worrying about what can happen this stops you from truly enjoying the now.
Let’s say you’re starting a new job, you wake up halfway through the night and you start worrying about it, this prevents you from sleeping, which means tomorrow you may be tired, restless and agitated – but did this prevent, change or contribute anything to the fact that you were going to be starting a new job tomorrow?
Think only of what is happening now.
Focus on the softness of the pillow, the gentle brush of the sheets, the warm body that may be lying beside you.
Differentiate between what is really happening now and what is happening in your head.
Worry is helpful sometimes, when something pops into your head that you remember that you have to do, like something dull as paying the bills, don’t dwell on it too much either make a note in your diary or do it.
However it gets to a point where we consume so much energy on what is to be or what could be or what has been, we are no longer living – we are no longer truly appreciating anything.
Everyday life can be busy but we do not need to make it busier or harder with our minds.
When your head becomes foggy with the past or the future, ask yourself three questions.
Remember the three questions:
- Does my thinking control the situation I am thinking about right now?
- Is whatever I am thinking about really happening right now?
- Am I living in the moment or is my head someplace imaginary?