Haemin Sumin said to allow your thoughts and feelings to pass just like clouds in the sky in his absolutely divine book Things You Can Only See When You Slow Down. And I cannot say that I do not agree – I myself have been trying to take that leaf out of his book and apply it to my own life. To not focus on and dwell upon my emotions but accept them for a feeling and allow them to pass.
I can often be a bit like an emotional sponge – soaking up a negative emotion and letting it consume me and my entire day. This can then influence my personal and professional relationships and can make a day that could have been perfectly fine, not at all.
Yes it is nice to sometimes emotionally load on the people in your life; but sometimes you realise you’re only ever saying the same things over and over again. It can be quite difficult for the person receiving what you are saying; they may not know how to help you – afterall the only person who can help you, is yourself.
I enjoy the act of writing. Scrawling my thoughts out onto paper. I also enjoy ripping that page out and tearing it up. There is a theraputic nature to it. A true sense of insignificance to my thoughts and feelings.
Doing this can make you realise which thoughts are truly insignificant and which actually require your reflection and time.
Seeing a worry on a piece of paper being torn up will show you that sometimes, thoughts are thoughts and feelings are feelings and they do not need to impact you as powerfully as you may currently let them.
Don’t rush with your feelings. Don’t let them get straight to your head and cause you to panic. Envision them as these clouds in the sky and allow them to blow over your head rather than through it.
Calmness is easier to manage than panic.
Calmness welcomes calm.