I am prone to getting myself into a seriously panicked state, especially in busy social situations.
I enjoy going out, listening to great music, dancing around and chatting to new people; I know this in myself – but this isn’t always what happens when I am faced with such social adventure.
My mind can become chaotic. It can be overwhelmed by the thought of new conversation, with new people. It can become insecure about how I appear to others and to myself. It can become frantic, disorganized and feel a lack of joy.
For the first time, in a long time it feels, I was able to silence my mind and focus on the situation around me. When I started to feel conscious, I reminded myself that nobody really cares what you’re doing or what you look like; if they do concern themselves with you in that way, it may not be negatively and if it is, this only reflects on them – not me.
Becoming aware of my social anxiety in situations that I used to enjoy, enables me to learn from my triggers and talk myself down from them in order to enjoy something without regret.
You can do this too.
It’s all about accepting to yourself that you do experience some extreme social anxiety, then you can understand what yout triggers are, what environments heighten it and how to talk yourself down as if you were talking to a very special friend.
I never thought I would be able to truly enjoy a night out with good people, music and energies again, I thought I was always going to have this anxious bubble around me but I helped burst it.
This is the first stepping stone, to the rest of my social anxiety conquering.
Let my experience, educate you too.
The first step is the hardest but once you reach it you only want to keep going’ – Tazmin Pye