There are very many people in the world and a handful of these people will be in your life. We can often be hurt by the words or actions of others, but my goal is to not allow the actions or words of people matter as much – depending on the circumstance and the situation.
It is important to connect yourself to people who let go of their anger, who let go of their upset, who allow their negative emotions to pass and not consume them. In doing this you too can learn from their example, be surrounded by their positivity and in turn feel better in yourself and about the world.
Surround yourself with what you want to become and who you want to be.
No two people are the same; people who spend their time passing judgement, discussing how other people live their lives in a negative way are people who are small minded and fail to accept that each and every person is different to that of themselves.
If you find yourself constantly having to explain yourself to someone who cannot accept your flaws, your quirks and your perks simply because you do not think or act the same to them – let it go. You cannot change people.
You may often hear of people talking about you behind your back, bad mouthing you even though you know you’re not a bad person, with a bad heart – you’re just learning and living and dealing with your mental health. Remind yourself that this is nothing about you, this is their issue, not yours. Nobody should be arrogant enough to talk someone down to other people for an unreal reason simply because you’re learning the ropes, making your own mistakes, and dealing with your own life.
You cannot change people.
You can change your attitude towards how they treat you, talk about you or do your character wrong for no genuine reason. This is your life and you’re going to live it as you please regardless of what others think, as it is yours. Be kind and gentle but do not tolerate nastiness.
This year is about developing loving kindness for yourself and those around you. Ignoring people’s negativity. And reigning in your own positive light and energy into what matters.
Pity those who feel the need to talk bad about you, just because you’re dealing with your own things – and leave it at that.
Remember two rules we were taught as children but will always have true meaning:
Treat people as you would like to be treated.
If you have nothing nice to say, say nothing at all.