One of the scariest things with anxiety is happiness; you work hard on yourself to feel healthier and happier but you can constantly second guess yourself. You can think that something terrible is about to happen to take your happiness away. You can build scenarios in your mind and convince yourself they’re coming true. All you want is to be calm and happy but the thought of that triggers your fear and your irrational thoughts.
It is so important, when you’re working on yourself and your anxiety, to live in the present moment; to focus on the facts and what you know to be true.
When your mind runs with all these thoughts of ‘what if, what if’ remind yourself that the very act of thinking that way isn’t going to prevent it from happening, it isn’t going to prepare you if it does happen and it doesn’t mean that it is going to happen.
When your mind runs with those thoughts of the future, find something to focus your thoughts on. The blue sky. The breeze on your skin. The conversation with your friend. The comfortable seat. The words on the page, something in this present moment.
You cannot predict the future. Worrying about the future does not control it. Severe anxiety thought patterns are often concerned with wanting control, not having control is frightening so we can often worry about everything that can threaten our happiness in order to try and gain control back. But we only end up hurting ourselves and losing time to enjoy things in the present moment of our everyday lives.
Give yourself time in each day, whenever you worry, to focus on the FACTS and not your anxieties irrational ‘truths’. Keep a journal to compare what you think you know, to what you really know.