If you lack a peace of mind, there may be a lot of things that explain this. I know there are for me, but when you keep holding onto these reasons you’re stopping yourself from having what we’re all very capable of… Peace of mind, is a state of mind and it is something you must really want in order to have. Just like anything worth having, it takes work, consideration and nurturing of this thing to keep it in tact and on our side. If you’re not a peaceful person, yet, you cannot say ‘I want to be peaceful’ in the hope it’ll come. You cannot visit peaceful places in the hope some faith will smack you in the head. You’ve got to have the power to evaluate yourself, your flaws and your positives and actively change things in order to achieve what you want for your mind. Stop waiting for things to emotionally come to you, work for it. Be critical and kind. Have moments alone. Let things go.
There are many things that could have experienced in the past that you are allowing to grapple your core beliefs and strangle your potential of peace of mind. Like me, I’m sorry they happened to you – but? Get the fuck over it.
How? Understand that we cannot choose where we’re from, we cannot choose the wrongs done to us and we cannot choose the hardships we had but it gets to a point where this chip in your shoulder, people stop caring, people stop feeling sorry for you and if you keep holding onto it – you’re dragging no one else down, other than yourself.
You might not like yourself; the reasons for this, I could go on forever, most people don’t really know – usually because of something someone said, something that happened, a feeling which was probably triggered when they were younger which they cannot even now remember. Just like I said before, get the fuck over it. You’re only dragging yourself down. Confidence, is part of a peace of mind and in order to have it, you only have to nurture one quality – belief. Once you believe in yourself, that is anything, love follows. The confidence you feel for others, you must feel for yourself else you’ll never seek a peace of mind.
Peace of mind is the ability to look at moments without pouring the hot, scary coals of the future upon it.
I could look over the valley and realize one day it will be sunken under water, or I could gaze dreamily at it now and think about the wildlife within it.
Peace of mind is not something I have yet, but realize that no matter where I am in the world, what I am doing, who my friends are, who is in my life at the current moment – it’s a state of mind and the only person who can use a chisel and hammer and turn it into something great, is me.
Stop making others responsible.
Everyone else is a bonus.
Let go of the past.
Get the fuck over the shit.
Focus on the peace.
You have to draw it out.