Our lives are precious and wonderful things; I truly believe that in this western society we lose touch with ourselves and the world in reality, as we are so distracted by the lives of others and how we are perceived both personally and online.
- Why worry over how you appear to others?
- Why let everyone know when you went to the gym today and what you ate for lunch?
- Why spend £1000 on a new phone which is going to be considered old in a few months?
- Why spend hours and hours in a moment looking at it through the camera of your phone for the rest of the world to see?
- Why judge one another on how you present yourself online?
- Why care so much about appearing a certain way online?
- Why care about how many likes you get on Instagram?
- Why queue for the same pair of shoes so you can present yourself as others?
Does it really make you happy living your life in the hope of all being the same? Does it really make you happy taking yourself so seriously, having a certain façade?
I often see the consumerism, the reliance of social media, the sheer commitment to presenting ourselves in a particular way, having a particular phone, getting into debates of which is better Apple or Android, ensuring we’re contoured to effectively upload today’s selfie, our nails done, our clothes suiting what the magazines suggest we wear.
Does it really make people happy to take themselves so seriously? Isn’t it draining trying to think about which photo will get the most likes?
The harder you try for others, the weaker the bond with yourself.
I used to try so hard to want to be liked by everyone, but I realise that the people who I am friends with now have more in common with myself than ever before.
Like many young people I used to try hard to be liked by everyone but I was often dissatisfied with the friendship groups I was forming because I never felt comfortable, I never felt as though I could just be me. This is because I was forming a façade based on what I thought people wanted to see, rather than how I actually was.
Once I just started to be a little more ‘fuck it, I like what I like, I don’t really care about these things, I write about things I care about, I’m very open about mental health and my emotions, I can be a little shy sometimes’ and so on, I started to be surrounded by people who were similar to me. People who I didn’t feel uncomfortable around. People who I felt natural with. Who I brought things out of and they, me. A natural human bond.
I am currently trying to get my phone contract closed early as I think it can be particularly negative on our mental health; of course this differs from person to person but I have a few goals in mind.
I wish to separate my online self with my real self-more succinctly.
I wish to be me and me alone. If people wish to get in touch, I will have a phone that sends and receives calls and texts and nothing more.
I wish to read more books and scroll less on my phone.
I wish to carry a camera around with me when I’m going to nice places, and upload the photos later when I want to.
I wish to become more in touch with myself and less with what everyone else is doing as the people who truly matter will want to keep in touch rather than asking ‘didn’t you see it on my profile?’