So I’m waking up this morning to go to work and check my phone and see on my Facebook that three years ago today I moved to university for the first time.
I am not going to lie I am really missing the university lifestyle and initially seeing this post made me a little bit sad.
But it was going to end at some point and despite all the personal challenges I met along the way, I really did have the most wonderful time. Here is a lesson learnt from going to university when suffering with depression and anxiety.
There is a lot of pressure when starting university to have the ‘best time of your life’ because usually after you leave you will say ‘I had the best time of my life’ . But like anything, things do not happen overnight. They happen gradually and settling into change can overwhelm some people.
My first year of university was incredibly overwhelming for myself. I did isolate myself. I didn’t make that many friends. I never really went out. I let anxiety stop me.
From my own experience what socialised me and gave me more confidence was working at a restaurant – I met like-minded people who had already been through university and working in a customer facing environment meant I had to get used to talking to people that I didn’t know.
This increased my confidence massively and enabled me to become more confident in making friends and putting myself in new social situations. By the end of my final year, I’d met and spoken to so many people, made so many new memories and found a whole new part of myself.
I’m a daydreamer, I expect things to go from zero to amazing in seconds, but life does not work this way. We do not wake up one day in summer and all the trees have leaves – it is a gradual and growing process. It is a about nurturing, patience and the right environment.
Take each university day one step at a time, do not let the events of yesterday change how you feel about today.
This is your time to grow. The person you are today, is not who you will be tomorrow, it is not who you will be in three years’ time.
The memories I hold dear are the ones when I never let anxiety cripple me.
You can do that to.
Try not to think too much about everything, laugh and dance as much as you can.