One thing I discovered in recovery was I constantly looked to the future. I used it to motivate me. I used it to keep me happy and give me a purpose. Something to live for.
This is a good exercise and motivator for people who are aiming to battle their depression or anxiety or any mental illness.
But I noticed that once I got to that point… The future. I felt like I no longer had anything to live for.
Don’t obsess too much with the future. That is the secondary goal. It can make you get up for work. But it cannot heal you within.
You need to remind yourself why you want to heal within. So you can wake up happier, so you can learn to appreciate everything possible, so you can seek positives in negatives.
Mindfulness is something I am still practicing. I am no master of Mindfulness. Present-day awareness is something you require when suffering within. It is also something we all require regardless of whether we are suffering within. It forms mental wellbeing.
Let the future motivate you. But don’t let it be the only reason to live, because once you get there you won’t know what to look for and you could fall back into darkness.
Let the present day. Let the new experiences. Let the uncertainty of each day, be a reason to live.
Focus on your surroundings.
Lose yourself in the present moment.
Therapists, counsellors and even tutors will recommend mindfulness as meditation practice.
Mindfulness is an ancient Buddhist practice which is very relevant for life today. Mindfulness is a very simple concept. Mindfulness means paying attention in a particular way: on purpose, in the present moment, and non-judgementally. This increases awareness, clarity and acceptance of our present-moment reality.
Thoughts. Sensations. Sights. Sounds.
What you do not normally notice.
The softness of your bed sheets. How your skin feels when warm water collides with your soapy skin in the shower.
Exercise your attention ‘muscle’.
Try everything you can. Believe.