In times of need, sadness, disappointment and struggle you may often come across both kinds of people; kindly people and bad people. I mean you will through all walks of life, the good and the bad but in times of low mood and anxiety we notice which kinds of people we’re faced with, more.
By the term ‘bad person’ I refer to people who are bad for you, your mental well being and people who simply do not have your best interests at heart. Regardless of who they are to you or your past with them if you find them to be only bad for you now you should make efforts to avoid their impact on your life.
In this post I will be discussing the acceptance of kindness, whoever from; and how to move on from negative people and their energy even if you’re surrounded by it daily.
If you have ever felt like it is you VS the world, something I know many people with poor mental health which derives from difficult childhood, trauma, emotional distress – a compassionate voice can go a long way.
Think of how you would speak to a friend and do this with yourself, daily. If you find doubts of kindness arising within your vocal narrative, let it go. Imagine it as a flower which you have picked in your hand, imagine the wind picking the flower out of your hand and watching it drift across the ground in the summer breeze. Now do this with your doubts. When people offer you kindly gestures, whatever their size, accept this kindness and respond to it with gratitude, appreciation and without doubtful anxiety. If the person offering you such kindness picks up on your doubt of this or feels a cold response, it may never come back.
There may be people that you go to in order to seek kindness and receive the selfish cold shoulder. It can be very natural to hold onto anger, frustration and upset towards this person. But just as we let go of doubts with kindness, let go of anger with lack of kindness. Imagine this flower that you picked, once more. Set it free.
We like to believe that we may know everything. But we cannot know everything about all people. We cannot understand what is going through a person’s mind and due to this, when someone doesn’t offer a promise made and offers no kindness, let it go but don’t look back.
It’s important we have people around us that see through what they promised to us and if they are unable to, and we are unable to understand why, let it go.
In doing this we hold no resentment and create more faith and trust in the world for now we know who we have around us.
If you find someone clearly doesn’t have you best interests at heart, doesn’t think about you, doesn’t ask how you’re doing, doesn’t ensure everything is okay with you (just as you do with them) let it go. Maybe they’re going through something you don’t understand. Maybe they’re just different to you and see the world through a different pair of glasses.
It can be normal to hold onto anger towards people who are greedy, selfish and cold. But in ding this we are more likely to become as them.
Move onto like minded people. People who are there and offer kindness to you, just as you do to them.
Kindness can be anything from ‘how are you today?’ to listening to anything that may be on your mind, to a big kindly gesture that may help you out.
Accept more kindness and do not fear or doubt it.
Move on from others who may not have your best interests at heart and not those who are merely distracted by themselves.