In the chaos of everyday life, sometimes our minds can become equally as chaotic.
Having one thought can ruin your entire day, week, maybe even longer. A healthy mind can have an unhelpful thought and the mind can rationalise it and deem it irrelevant. When someone suffers with severe anxiety they can have a thought and it can have gradual negative ripple effects in their lives for days, weeks or months.
When suffering with severe anxiety, when learning to manage and control it. It is all well and good to KNOW that this is what is happening, but it is not that easy to stop it in its tracks before something unhelpful festers in your mind and can ruin things in your life that really did not need to be ruined at all.
Anxiety can have serious negative effects not only on your physical health and wellbeing, but on those around you, your job and your daily lifestyle.
Sometimes it will feel as though you cannot be helped. That your mind is simply out of control. That it is all going to go wrong and that is that. Having severe anxiety can bring out your most darkest and critical voice. It can make a day that was supposed to be good, bad. And make you think that every day after will be just as bad.
Please believe me when I say, that is not the case.
Once you realise that your anxiety it controlling you. Your life. And making life much harder than it needs to be. This is when you can take the control back.
Some steps to beating anxiety:
- Inform your friends, loved ones and colleagues that you trust about your issues. They may not understand, or they may. But let them know that if sometimes you act a certain way or say certain things to them that might be hard for them to hear – to remain calm and supportive. It is important that you do not bottle up what you are going through, don’t be alone.
- Always have time to yourself in the day, in the morning, at night or whenever you start feeling anxious, at night. Whenever you can have 10 minutes or an hour, whatever you can get to yourself to reflect on anything feelings you may have and rationalise them. This is a priority for your wellbeing and something all of us should do.
- When a situation occurs that is causing you to feel fight-or-flight, try your very very best to step back and THINK. Rationalise.
- Treat yourself with the same compassion as a loved one. Forgive yourself. Understand that you can be better.
- And finally, love yourself. You cannot truly work on yourself and your anxiety if you do not love yourself. BE compassionate. Be kind. Be gentle.
You are not alone.
But anxiety does not have to take over your life.
You can truly enjoy life again, without always worrying about something else.
Happiness is your birth right.
”know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubblegum” – Baz Luhrmann